14 February, 2010
Valentines Bah, Humbug
I don't celebrate Valentine's Day though I would if I could. Like a shot.
It's pagan origin precludes it for me, however.
But in reading around the net today I noticed a theme from women and men on the custom
of giving a card and/or candy to someone you love or are thinking fondly of and found the reactions interesting. Here is one example.
The logic goes that since men hate the day it should not exist.
Men concur. Valentine's Day, like birthdays and anniversaries, Mother's Day and other holidays were simply a way for the card manufacturers to make a buck and besides you can tell someone you love them anytime , not just one day a year.
Nice but no cigar. That is an excuse to do nothing.
Problem is the men who think such things probably never tell anyone they love them let alone once a year . Men seem to be of the almost universal opinion that talk is cheap. It can be. But for women, talk is important.
Women relate through conversation as well as actions.
Guys insist they struggle to make a living for their wives. This is the proof of the love. Okay, fair enough in some cases but ...
They would be making a living wife or not. That's an excuse. Money interests men, success and power too, and they would be out there slugging wife or not.
You won't hear these same Scroogey sentiments said about the NBA playoffs or SuperBowl Sunday.
Most women have no use for football or basketball really. Left to their druthers they would sooner watch a chick flick or do something entirely different. There are a whole lot of women, however, who make a big to do for their men on those days making sure the guys and their pals have snacks, dinners, etc. And, many of the women join in and watch, a significant number of them doing it for him, for them, etc.
Now it's true, most men don't care if women like sports or not. They don't care if women watch with them or not. They probably don't care much if women make a big to do or not either. But if someone goes out of their way to make it nicer for you.... well you know what I mean.
But women do care about things men believe are the little things.
Girly girls do that is. The macho babes might not, but the rest do care a lot. And I don't just mean Valentine's Day.
The scuttlebutt around women is that most men in their lives do not celebrate or remember anniversary days, birthdays and if they do, it is with dread and lack of care.
Most women say their men rarely if ever say "I love you". To women, if you don't say it, you don't feel it, arguments to the contrary. It is also cruel to deny someone something they need.
So that one day a year is too much to ask. Well according to most of what I read, it is.